Something more on kissing from one who has done a lot of it! No actual smacking noises, no noises at all except for the occasional moan, sigh, or murmuring of the kissee's name (correct name, open eyes to check if necessary). Speaking of open eyes: very distracting if both do it, comical actually. Also, don't pass up the opportunity to gently nuzzle the throat, the side part of it, and stroke the cheek and hair, which helps to disguise an attempt at spatial accuracy. Thanks, Alice — you do good work.

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Dear Alice,

While looking through all of the files of the "how to kiss" section, I was quite surprised to find out that no one has mentioned the "sucking" part of French kissing.

What I'm referring to is the inhalation of each partner to create the suction within their mouths when they are exchanging tongues. Experimenting with blowing out through the nose and continuing the inhalation within the mouth is something that might be worked on for later instances. Having someone blow their breath inside your mouth isn't a very enjoyable experience, at least in mine it hasn't been.

I have to admit that such advice was not shared with me before my first kiss and the embarrassment of having my boyfriend explain the action to me is not something that I would wish on other first timers.

I have thoroughly enjoyed this web site since it provides you with a place to ask all those questions you're dying to know but sometimes too embarrassed to ask in person.

Thanks again, ~College Girl

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Alice,

I love your website! Where else could people talk about stuff like this, and it not seem ridiculous? Bravo to anyone brave enough to ask for advice before kissing. I wasn't and I learned the hard way. As a girl who LOVES to be kissed, I have a little advice, too. First, relax. Your mind and your lips. If they like you enough to let you get that close, you're over the biggest hurdle. Second, people's lips fit together best kind of staggered. Instead of just aiming for their mouth, try to aim for their bottom lip. Sounds kinda weird, but it fits right, and it you do the hand practicing, you'll see what I mean. Best of luck to you, and happy making out!

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Dear Alice and CO,

A few weeks ago I finally told the girl that I love how I felt (First time in love, and I'm 22!). I remember our first kiss vividly. It was awkward at first, but we didn't care. My advice to the first kiss, don't think about it! Just do what comes naturally. I love my girlfriend and I didn't know how to kiss, but that didn't stop us. Just go for it. You will get the hang of it eventually (me and my girlfriend both had sore spots after our first night. we just kissed too hard. we now kiss perfectly ;) ) So to all those who worry about the first kiss, DON'T! The first kiss is the most wonderful experience ever.

— The 22 year old Knucklehead

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Hi,

Try kissing the inside of your wrist just where the thumb meets the wrist. It's the nearest feeling to a good kiss. In all kisses, keep yor lips supple, not tight. Defininately, don't open your mouth too wide! (I've been with women who open all the way and it's not a kiss; my buddies tell me the same story!)