Feeling Helpless

No need to fret - the only thing you should worry about is if the Laundromat is open!!  Knowing that wet dreams (a.k.a. nocturnal emissions) aren’t just for adolescent males may make you feel better as well.  While wet dreams are more prevalent among teens, older men and women can also experience these overnight orgasms.  In fact, studies show that about 90% of men and around 37% of women have wet dreams on occasion.  Some people have them more often than others, and some people enjoy the experience more than others.      

Erotic dreams, including those that result in orgasm, happen whether we want them to or not.  It isn’t a sign that you need more sex, or that you or don’t enjoy the sex you are having.   If it is the content of the dreams that have you worried (for example: an ex-partner, a new sexual scenario, a bear on a tricycle, etc…), remember that dreams and fantasies are ways for us to explore our sexuality without actually acting on it.  We may dream or fantasize about situations and behaviors that we may or may not choose to act upon.  They are simply ways for us to explore.  

While having more sex or masturbating more often may help reduce your wet dreams, there is no guarantee that you will stop having them altogether.  If they do continue, why not consider trying to enjoy the experience?  Erotic dreams are perfectly normal and healthy, and the orgasms that often accompany them are simply other ways to enjoy our sexuality...even if it means having to do the laundry a little more often. 

Sweet dreams,

Alice