Dear Alice,

I am able, with some concentration, to ejaculate without orgasm, and I find this to be a useful skill at times. Visually, and physically, ejaculation is erotic for my wife and I. Unfortunately, typically orgasm is followed almost immediately by a sharp change in sexual interest and mindset for me, at least for a period of time, which somewhat dampens the natural eroticism of ejaculating. By ejaculating without orgasm, I am able to maintain the "erotic high" and enjoy the act and visual stimulation of ejaculating, without the let down that follows orgasm. For us, this is a positive thing.